Monthly Archive: October 2016

Oct 14 2016

Death and Letting Go

Death and Letting Go On Rosh HaShanah it is written, and on Yom Kippur it is determined, “Who shall live and who shall die.” In America we associate dying with sickness and disease, something which takes place in hospitals, out of sight. In ancient culture, and, in fact, up until the modern era, death was …

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Oct 05 2016

Happiness = Goodness/How to Be Happy

HOW TO BE HAPPY Make the decision to be happy Make the best of whatever comes your way Understand that everything has a price Speak in positive ways Expect less and appreciate more Find ways to give back to the community Care for your body through food and exercise Make time to be with the …

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Oct 05 2016

Three Aspects of Forgiveness

WHY IS FORGIVENESS SO HARD? In Sue Monk Kidd’s fabulous book, The Secret Life of Bees. The author writes that, “If God said in plain language, ‘I’m giving you a choice, forgive or die,’ a lot of people would go ahead and order their coffin.” We cling to our woundedness and declare our hurt. It …

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Oct 05 2016

David Rubenstein and Rabbi Milton Steinberg

My beloved husband, David Rubenstein, died on May 19, 2015. This is my second High Holidays without him.  His death did not quite meet the standard we imagine when we say the words, “a ripe old age.”  He was 69 years old, not young, but too young to be gone, before the birth of his …

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Oct 05 2016

God as Parent

We call on God as Avinu, Malkenu- our Father, our King, or, perhaps, our Parent, our Ruler. In her book, Nurture the Wow, Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg quotes William Thackeray, “Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children.”  (p. 109)  When we reach out to God as a parent, we …

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Oct 05 2016

Spiritual Accounting and the Book of Life from an Accountant’s Perspective

My mom spent much of her career as a math teacher and as comptroller of a real estate company. My dad, alav hashalom, was an accountant.  I have two brothers, Michael and Philip- both accountants.  I, on the other hand?  The last math class that I completed was 10th grade geometry.  Bookkeeping is not my …

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Oct 05 2016

When the Book of Life is Closed

The new year is upon us. Our book of life lies open before us.  We like to think that we have the luxury of time and many, many blank pages to fill in with fun and exciting moments as well as moments of depth and meaning.  We pause, now, to remember those whose books are …

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